Farewell Finn

cn: suicide, death, nhs cuts, chronic illness

Finnian John Lytle was an amazing person. That’s not just me saying that because he’s passed away and I want to put him on a pedastool, he was genuinely lovely. I honestly don’t know anyone who hated Finn, he was someone you just couldn’t help but love. 

Unfortunately, he had a lot going on in his life and, on the 18th May 2017, Finn committed suicide.

I wrote this post a little while ago, but haven’t been able to post it until now, 4 months to the day. 

Two photos of Finn with the words above 'Farewell Finn'

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There’s No Such Thing As Too Much Love

I love all three of my partners. I love Tyler, Panda and Kasey. They are all a part of my life and I feel wonderful being openly and honestly involved with all of them.

But I know a common retort is “How can you love more than one person? How is that even possible?” Today I want to explain how I experience love, and how I can possibly feel love for more than one.

Polyamory symbol of a heart and infinity sign, text reads 'There's No Such Thing As Too Much Love'

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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Transition

Kai & Other Popular Names

My name is annoyingly common now. It wasn’t when I first came out, but now it really is.

I have been going by the name Kai since I was about 16, on and off. That is now nearly seven years. In that time, it has become much more popular and I know a lot of people called Kai now.


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Intersex People

I am not intersex (to my knowledge, a lot of people don’t know unless extensive tests are carried out), and therefore this post will not be a long one because I don’t know a massive amount on the subject. Instead today I want to give some links to explain what it can mean.


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When I first came out, finding like-minded people was important to me. I wanted to find people I could connect with, that knew what I was going through. I didn’t know anyone who was trans (to my knowledge), let alone non-binary, aside from one person online who I didn’t really speak to much. Even then all I knew was that he’d been homeless once and his family had kicked him out – not exactly the best start.

Finding groups really helped. Today I want to talk about some of the places I went to, and how they helped me.


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