Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Relationships, Transition, Volunteering


When I first came out, finding like-minded people was important to me. I wanted to find people I could connect with, that knew what I was going through. I didn’t know anyone who was trans (to my knowledge), let alone non-binary, aside from one person online who I didn’t really speak to much. Even then all I knew was that he’d been homeless once and his family had kicked him out – not exactly the best start.

Finding groups really helped. Today I want to talk about some of the places I went to, and how they helped me.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Transition


I have done many posts on non-binary identities, and I even did a post or two last year on the topic. Today though I want to talk about the fluidity of gender on its own. This doesn’t even necessarily have to be in relation to being non-binary, though it is a big part of it.

Life doesn’t stand still. It doesn’t stay the same. People don’t all stand still. People don’t stay the same. Why then do we assume gender does?


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Transition


I am an emotional human. I cry when I listen to sad songs. I listened to a whole album by Anthony Rapp the other day called Without You, which was about the musical RENT, and I bawled like a baby at the point where he was singing about his mum dying. I also get ridiculously happy at times and can’t stop laughing. I get inundated with infatuation for new beaus, and old ones. I am human. I get emotional.

Not because I am trans.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, Uncategorized

Dead Naming – The Power Behind A Name

Dead naming is the moment you call someone who is trans or non-binary (or who has changed their names, in some cases) by the name they had assigned to them, often at birth. It is one of the worst ways of misgendering someone, especially when it is done intentionally.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Transition

Cisnormative Society

I need to start this off by saying one thing. Cis is not an insult. Cis literally means same. Cisgender, therefore, means same gender. It simply means the opposite of trans. Calling someone a cis woman or cis man is much better than saying something like ‘real’ woman, or ‘real’ man, or worse, ‘biological woman’ or ‘biological man’ (have a look at my post yesterday on biology if you want to know why that is so wrong).

Cisnomativity refers to when everything is laid out simply for cis people, such as toilets being simply male and female. My article today is to talk about what it means to live in a cisnormative society, as someone who isn’t cis.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, Transition

Biological Arguments

Last year I did a post on XX and XY chromosomes, and I spoke about the harm that using the biological argument could do. Today I want to go into a bit more depth and link a few other articles that explain it a lot better than I.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, Family, Friends, LGBT, Relationships

The Ally Cookie

Allies are great. They make you feel safe in your skin, like you don’t have to worry so much when around them based on your attributes (for the sake of this blog right now we will say gender). They are lovely (nine times out of ten).

But they aren’t deserving of a cookie.


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Blog Series, Blogging A-Z, LGBT, Transition, Uncategorized

April A-Z Challenge, All About Gender!

I know this is a little late (okay, very late, as it begins tomorrow), but for this years’ April A-Z Challenge I am once again doing the theme of Gender! I hope not to repeat myself, however some terms may be common across both this year and last. I know it is a theme that does not often get done, so I figured it would be good to bring more knowledge around the subject to more people.

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The Death Card

I got my first set of Tarot cards for Christmas from Tyler, they were an unusual type, circular rather than rectangular, and they were actually pretty cool. My first set gave me a good overview of what Tarot is, and they really pulled me in to wanting more.

I now have a few different sets, and one thing I learnt through practising reading on myself was about the death card, and the true meaning behind it. I, like many others, had originally taken it to mean literal death. But looking further into it I realise that it is not the case. The death card signals new beginnings. It shows change. That really is the meaning of this blog post today. Change. Because right now, I am going through a lot of it!

Wednesday the 15th February I began a new chapter in my life. I handed in my notice at my current workplace, where I have been for just over a year, in favour of a new care home which is a mere ten minute walk from my flat. I was petrified.


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LGBT, Mental Health, Transition

Trans Lives Are Not A Debate

Today is International Women’s day. Today still, in 2017, so many women, including those who identify as trans and non binary, are facing harassment, ridicule, hatred, and ignorance on a daily basis. 

Image by Fox Fisher

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